Engagement-A Step Towards Marriage

A more lasting relationship constitute the last phase of mate selection which is called engagement. In the Philippine setting and in other countries of the world, engagement is the formal acceptance of the offer to marry. A ring which symbolizes the acceptance is presented to the girl and is worn on the third finger of the left hand. For those who can afford, a party is held solely for the purpose of announcing the engagement.

Engagement can be one of the happiest moment in one's life. In this stage, the couple undergoes final analysis of the relationship, feelings, and acceptance of each other which will lead to a lasting and permanent relationship called marriage.

To Filipinos engagement is a commitment to be honored. If something untoward happens, it's the entire family who is at stake.

The length of the engagement is determine by the following factor

1. Emotional and physical readiness

2. Maturity

3. Adaptability

4. Length of friendship

If there are problems and frustrations during the dating period, there are also problems during engagement and they are as follows

1. Jealousy

2. Disagreement over in-laws

3. Money matters

4. Values and philosophy in life

5. Methods of dealing of each family

The agreement to marry is not absolute and does not bring legal sanction to the one breaking the engagement.